-By Balram Maharjan
I was just having rest in the park after 6 rounds of running in the UN Park, near to my residence, my wife sat next to me. She had completed her 10 minutes jugging. We chatted for a while. She said she is not happy in life. I was shocked because we had everything in life that people seek for. A house, good family, business, holiday trip once a month and so on. “Why do you think so?” “I don’t know. Everyone tells I have everything needed, but I am not happy. “Then I questioned myself, am I happy? “No,” was my inner voice reply. Now, that was an eye-opener for me. I began my quest to understand the real cause of my unhappiness, I couldn’t find one. I dug deeper, read articles, spoke to life coaches but nothing made sense. At last one of my doctor friend Rohit gave me the answer which put all my questions and doubts to rest. I implemented those and will say I am a lot happier person. She said there are four hormones which determine a human’s happiness – Endorphins, Dopamine, Serotonin, and Oxytocin.
It is important we understand these hormones, as we need all four of them to stay happy. Let’s look at the first hormone the Endorphins. When we exercise, the body releases Endorphins. This hormone helps the body cope with the pain of exercising. We then enjoy exercising because these Endorphins will make us happy. Laughter is another good way of generating Endorphins. We need to spend 30 minutes exercising every day, read or watch funny stuff to get our day’s dose of Endorphins. The second hormone is Dopamine. In our journey of life, we accomplish many little and big tasks, it releases various levels of Dopamine. When we get appreciated for our work at the office or at home, we feel accomplished and good, that is because it releases Dopamine. This also explains why most housewives are unhappy since they rarely get acknowledged or appreciated for their work. Once, we join work, we buy a car, a house, the latest gadgets, a new house so forth. In each instance, it releases Dopamine and we become happy. Now, do we realize why we become happy when we shop? The third hormone Serotonin is released when we act in a way that benefits others. When we transcend ourselves and give back to others or to nature or to the society, it releases Serotonin. Even, providing useful information on the internet like writing information blogs, answering people questions on Quora or Facebook groups will generate Serotonin. That is because we will use our precious time to help other people via our answers or articles. The final hormone is Oxytocin, is released when we become close to other human beings. When we hug our friends or family Oxytocin is released. Similarly, when we shake hands or put our arms around someone’s shoulders, various amounts of Oxytocin are released. Now, we can understand why we need to hug a child who has a bad mood. So, it is simple, we must exercise every day to get Endorphins, we must accomplish little goals and get Dopamine, we need to be nice to others to get Serotonin and finally hug our kids, friends, and families to get Oxytocin and we will be happy. When we are happy, we can deal with our challenges and problems better. Happy Dashain!!!!